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Friday, January 3, 2014

2013





The numbers
 
Swim: an hour or so total
Bike: 240 hours ~4000 miles
Run:  1850 miles ( zero in December)
 
the first year I remember that I did not capture a Goals List
 
oh, I had goals  just the Same but without a list it's a bit harder to reflect.
 
so….
 
what went well?
 
1.  I think I was a better dad in 2013….  might be my best year yet…  not the easiest… Parenting is hard…  really hard…   and not just hard to do…  hard to know if you are even on the right track.  
 
oh I do love the parents of second graders who think they have it all figured out…. I simply smile and nod…  they will see one day
 
these days with an 18 year old…  and a 20 year old I find myself listening more, asking more questions, and giving gentle advice….  a tectonic shift from the "drill sergeant dad" i once was…
 
2.  Career is going okay too… I count myself very lucky…  I have a job that is rewarding, coworkers and a staff that I really like and enjoy interacting with, yet my job does not control my life.  win-win
 
3.  I am also oh so fortunate to be married to the sweetest woman on the planet…. peace, love, and harmony at home….  the richest blessing anyone could ask for
 
4.  RATS was once again a tremendous journey…  both the training for and the trip/race…  memories and lessons to hold dear for a lifetime…  yet after 3 trips the desire to run through the desert has left me.  I sucked at being an ultrarunner this year…  yet I finished in the top 5 overall in the only two 5ks I did…  maybe I should think about that…
 
5.  I have made some new friends… after RATS my running quite literally fell apart…  Cycling is what I wanted to concentrate on for a while and to that end Judi and I started riding with one of the cycling groups here in town…  in the past few months I have met a bunch of people and am really having a blast riding 2-3 times a week with these guys…
 
Okay…

we have started this off on a positive note…  good.
 
The one thing that will forever define 2013 is the loss of my mother…
 
I've lost aunts and uncles, grandparents, and cousins…  even a couple of friends along the way… but never anyone so close….  And really who could be closer?
 
I've seen other lose their parents and while I have felt for them…  in the back of my mind I've always thought…  "well..  it's the natural order of things…  they knew it was going to happen…  they should really just get over it"  and there you have it friends…  in the back of my mind I'm an asshole
 
Nine months on…  and I still tear up at a memory…  a "I'm going to ask my mom about" this that or the other thought that I have…
 
I would write some more and try and wrap this up on a positive note but I don't really have anything else to say about 2013…  so let's just do a picture show
 
January:
Lots o stairmilling
 
February:
Breast Cancer Marathon in memory of an old friend
 
March:
Running in the rain with Jimmy
 
April:
Mom
 
May:
Self-supported midnight Marathon
 
June:
Another great week with our RATS Family
 
July:
 
Golf
 
August:
 Key West with my youngest
 
 
September: 
Group Ride to Amelia on Labor Day
 
October:
 
Muddy Cyclocross
 
November:
Bike crash on the Guana Ride
 
December:
 
 
Late Friday afternoon solo ride
 
  
 

1 comment:

Will said...

Pace:

An amazing post. What I hear is you are surrounded by many amazing women, and they are keeping you grounded. You lost one...probably the one who taught you the most. Of course, your mom. Just stay passionate. Forget Ultra running. Go with what lights your fire. And thanks for being so honest!

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